In today’s fast and busy world many of us have forgotten the meaning and value of respect. Broadly, there are two forms of respect, one is self-respect and the other is respect for others. Respect is the caring and positive attitude we feel for others and ourselves. Nowadays we are so preoccupied with our work that we don’t have enough time to think about it. In most cases our attitude towards others is deteriorating every day and most of us suffer from that guilt of misbehaving with others. But this is also true that if we are reciprocated in the same rude and disrespectful manner then it becomes very difficult for us to accept the situation.
Parents want their children to show respect to them and others without accepting the fact that they haven’t brought up their children in that way. Sometimes due to the lack of work life balance parents often fail to give lessons on important values of life to their children. And this is the reason why children are unaware of good behaviours as ‘Respect’. We will often find that many children talk disrespectfully to their elders and argue with them in a harsh language and sometimes don’t even care about it.
The value of respect has a very significant role in shaping up the personality of child. Being a parent it is your responsibility to discuss and help your child learn the value and importance of respect. Here are some useful ways to encourage your child to respect others
Be a mentor to your children;
Be a good mentor to your children. Talk to your children on instances when they were reciprocated with disrespectful behaviour from someone, and the pain they felt that moment because of that. Try to relate that situation with any latest instances of disrespect shown by your children to you or others. Then let them judge both the situations and come up with the judgement. There are chances that they would realise their mistake and won’t repeat such behavior again.
Encourage your children to have self-respect;
Self-respect in children is very important. It has been found that children having self-respect perform better in life. Self-respect is about caring and loving oneself. To have respect for others, it is very important to have self-respect. This is because if you feel happy and loved then only you can make others happy. Self-respect is also feeling proud about oneself. It is very important to have an overall personality development.
Stop accepting unreasonable behaviour of your children;
Sometimes the excess love of parents stops them from guiding their children to the right behaviour. Because of this pampering attitude towards their children parents often ignore the rude and harsh attitude shown by their children. Parents need to understand that if they don’t control the situation then it will pose larger behavioural problems in the child later. Now your children are young and they will understand and meet your expectations, however, once they are adults it will become difficult for you to guide them as they would have developed their own set of ideology.
Encourage basic etiquettes in children. When they interact with the society, etiquette will be the key factor on which they will be measured. Saying “thank you”, “excuse me” and “please” are some of the basic forms of etiquette which every child should learn. Knowing these will help children in dealing with their teachers or even in getting a job once they get older. These etiquettes have a lifelong value.
Encourage children to accept and respect differences;
While growing up children will come across other children of different race, languages, cultures, and, backgrounds. Parents should talk to their children on these things when they are young. Learning about these differences at their young age will make it easier for children to accept these differences as a part of their life. This will encourage them to have respect for diversity.
Respect your children;
Parents need to be very careful while talking to their children. If you expect your children to respect you then, first you will have to treat them respectfully. It is true that in the beginning it would be difficult for you to not shout at your child’s rude and disrespectful behaviour. Being a parent it is your responsibility to correct their disrespectful behaviour by treating them respectfully. If you reciprocate in the same disrespectful way, then despite managing the situation you might turn it to become worse.
Remember children always look up to their parents as their role model. The way you will behave, they will reciprocate. Without discriminating, start respecting everyone and watching your actions, your children will also start reciprocating; this way you can help them grow up to become a generous, empathetic, and self-respecting individual.